Friendship: 5 Reasons Why Your Whole Crew is Fabulous and Should Never Be Viewed as your Competition

If you are anything like me, you don't RHOll with anybody that's less than a dime...Yeah I said it! All my friends are fabulous. But we are all fabulous in our own way. Why is it that as women we sometimes view other women as competition? Well, I'm here to tell you to STOP IT! Women are the most powerful creatures on earth. We have the power to do anything, so stop using that power on competing with the next chick. I'm here to tell you why the people in your circle are fabulous and how that fabulousness can change your life.

YOU ARE ALL DIFFERENT AND UNIQUE:

Yeah you share common interest...duh that’s why you're friends. But not one person in your circle is the same. That’s what makes your clique so fabulous. Your group is made up of all types of women. From being married with kids, to single and ready to mingle. Some are shy, some are outspoken, some are considerate of others and some, not so much. The bottom line is that this is your circle, and you allow them to continue to be a part of your life because you love them in your presence for some reason or another. My friends range from age 19 to 70 (yeah, I'm a fun girl) LOL But that is what I love about the people I surround myself with. There is not one person in this circle that is like me. Diversity in your group is the key to growth…if you are open to it.

YOU LEARN SO MUCH FROM EACH OTHER:

I don’t know about you, but I learn so much from my friends. We are all in different places in our lives and each of our experiences should be viewed as valuable assets for growth. I believe that as women we need to sit back and understand that our life journey is meant to be shared with those closest to you. You never know how your story can help the next person. Now, I’m not saying share all your business with all your friends, but be open and recognize opportunities to share your life experience when it can help someone else. That’s how we build trust in our relationships with our friends.

YOU ENCOURAGE EACH OTHER:

Depending on who your friends are, a little peer pressure is good. Our friends have a tendency to encourage us to do things we wouldn’t normally do; and if you have great friends like mine, these are things that will make you a better person. There was a time in my life that was afraid to travel and try new things like, river tubing and climbing falls. Now I can’t get enough of traveling to new places.

YOU HELP EACH OTHER LOOK GOOD:

I know for my crew, we don’t let each other leave the house looking any kind of way. We make sure that everyone is looking good and on point. With that being said, I must confess that my sense of style was not always as fabulous as it now. LOL I have had friends encourage me to wear that “pop of color” that in the past I would say “girl that don’t match.” Guess what it doesn’t have to! Sometimes that reassurance from a friend is what gets you to step out of your comfort zone… Newsflash people, that’s called growth.

YOU PROTECT EACH OTHER:

Chiiilllle let me tell you! If anyone hurts my friends they are hurting me. Now this is where the personality differences in your circle can save you from catching a case. You know what I’m talking about. When you call your girlfriends up and tell them how ol’ boy did you wrong…You always got that one ride or die gangsta friend who wants to go and slash some tires, but thank GOD for the level headed one that’s too scared to go to jail to talk some sense into her and calm the situation down, and the other methodical genius friend who always has a better plan for revenge that won’t land you on the news…LOL Our balance of friends should be there to protect our hearts, and our futures.

BOTTOM LINE:

I said all that to say this: surround yourself with people who are genuine and who are not looking to compete with you in any way. Remember that your journey is just that…YOUR journey and God has placed these individuals on your path for a reason. Maybe it’s just for a short while, some friendships are not meant to last forever (trust me, you know which ones those are). But even when that friendship ends, look at the positive of the relationship because there is always a lesson with every interaction. Love the friends you have and treat them the way you want to be treated. Don’t take them for granted because you may look up one day and they won’t be there. If you have an issue with something they did, talk about it. Let them know how it made you feel. Never assume that they know what they did was wrong, because you may just find out they had no idea how it affected you. You and your crew are fabulous but you already know that, now go out and let the world witness it!

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